How I Came To Hold You – Book for Sands

‘How I Came To Hold You’ is a book about becoming pregnant after the loss of a baby, whether it be through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. Describing the true stories of seventeen families, it explores the challenges and emotions faced during a time which should be joyful, but for many parents – whose loss and grief is still so raw – becomes a time of anxiety, nervousness, and daring to hope.

But ‘How I Came To Hold You’ is about more than that, really. It’s about bravery, courage, about how much the human spirit can endure when placed under the worst stress and grief imaginable. It looks at the ways in which bereaved parents can find encouragement and comfort, and gives those who have not suffered a similar tragedy an insight into the mind of a grieving father or mother, so that they know how best to approach a friend or relative who has had their child taken away.

Most of all, ‘How I Came To Hold You’ is a book about love. It is about the imprint and impact that a baby has on a parent’s life, regardless of how long they were held in their arms. It is a declaration of love to the baby lost, but also an explanation of the arrival of the baby who followed: this is the journey we endured, the grief we felt, the love we had, my child. This is how I came to hold you.

‘How I Came To Hold You’ will be published on 16th April, and will be available from the Sands online shop or on Amazon. Every copy sold will raise vital funds for the charity Sands.

4 thoughts on “How I Came To Hold You – Book for Sands

  1. Thank you for sharing, I just bought an electronic copy.

  2. Liz

    Hi Lisa, I’m here through ICLW and wanted to send you my blessings. My niece passed away 3 days after her full-term birth on Thanksgiving 2005. Every year on her birthday my sister and I call each other and remember her: Gwendolyn Yael King. I don’t know any other people who have gone through that experience. People sometimes compare it to miscarriage or assume that it isn’t a big loss because Gwen was only a few days old. Some days it is easier than others to brush that misunderstanding off, and sometimes it is too much to bear. Even after 7 years, the grief is still strong. So I am glad to find your blog and read your story. All my best blessings to you for healing and hope for your heart. – Liz

  3. Hi from ICLW. Sounds like a really good book.

  4. I’m so glad there are words of comfort out there for lost who have lost precious babies…good on you for spreading that comfort around.

    Happy ICLW (#34)!

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